I have one child, house and assets with my wife. I am working on finding a lawyer to file for divorce. In short, my spouse is financially abused, has a couple of non-substance addictions, and is verbally abusive; he mocks my child and me. We have been married for over 10 years (stayed as long as I have threats). I'm familiar with Google and have searched quite a bit, but can anyone advise what questions I should ask during a legal consultation? How do I know if a lawyer is right for me? My husband is vindictive and very money oriented. I often back down or give in to keep the peace and my mental well being. I need a strong lawyer who can advise me when to be flexible but can be aggressive and not back down. I would also like someone to help me in negotiations about keeping the house and refinancing and the like. Although we have not yet discussed divorce with any finality, he has already threatened to transfer money from accounts and out of my reach. Unfortunately I can do it my own https://onlinedivorcer.com/county-specific-resources/oregon/divorce-in-multnomah-county